[Fidelia]

One of the things that scares me about this generation of children is how quickly they grow and start doing things that took us close to two decades to start doing. How would you handle the fact that your well cared for precious angel of 13 years has a boyfriend and is most likely having sex?

[Jem Smith]

I'd put a stop to that because it's much too young. At 16 maybe, but at 13 they're not even finished growing (and might not be at 16 either but at least that's the age of consent and they have a bit more maturity). I would hope parents would have talked to their children about sex before 13 and explained about pregnancy, diseases and contraception at least. You should also talk to them about the importance of consent, and that it's okay and normal to wait a few years.

I wouldn't assume that a 13 year old with a boyfriend is having sex, because plenty of kids have a boyfriend or girlfriend at that age and don't do anything more than kissing. But if you think your 13 year old is having sex then you need to talk to them asap about that stuff and maybe come down hard about not letting them be unsupervised with their boyfriend.

[Netherrealmer]

This woman is boasting her 3 year relationship with her 16 year old boyfriend... Do the math.




I wont mind if my teen son or daughter is sexually active if they do it with protection with a person of the same age and not with an adult.

[Kalayla]

This woman is boasting her 3 year relationship with her 16 year old boyfriend... Do the math.




I wont mind if my teen son or daughter is sexually active if they do it with protection with a person of the same age and not with an adult.

I want to assume this woman is just grooming this boy and they are not having sex

[oldbuddy]

One of the things that scares me about this generation of children is how quickly they grow and start doing things that took us close to two decades to start doing. How would you handle the fact that your well cared for precious angel of 13 years has a boyfriend and is most likely having sex?

You failed to say if your child is male or female. That could make a big difference.

[Fidelia]

One of the things that scares me about this generation of children is how quickly they grow and start doing things that took us close to two decades to start doing. How would you handle the fact that your well cared for precious angel of 13 years has a boyfriend and is most likely having sex?

You failed to say if your child is male or female. That could make a big difference.

"Precious angel" should have told you the child is female. Those metaphors are not used for boys. Are they?

[Jem Smith]

"Precious angel" should have told you the child is female. Those metaphors are not used for boys. Are they?

People do sometimes describe boys that way, if talking about their own children. Younger boys anyway.

[oldbuddy]

One of the things that scares me about this generation of children is how quickly they grow and start doing things that took us close to two decades to start doing. How would you handle the fact that your well cared for precious angel of 13 years has a boyfriend and is most likely having sex?

You failed to say if your child is male or female. That could make a big difference.

"Precious angel" should have told you the child is female. Those metaphors are not used for boys. Are they?

Believe it or not, there are plenty of 13 year old boys who have boyfriends they are probably having sex with.

[Fidelia]

It is really depressing to accept that reality when you have put in everything to raise your baby girl. How can she betray you like that?

[Kerryjoy12]

that is unacceptable to me, infact its a sin, fornication, that is why training a child well and bringing him or her up well and giving restrictions and boundaries is impontant

[Jem Smith]

It is really depressing to accept that reality when you have put in everything to raise your baby girl. How can she betray you like that?

Betray you?

I wouldn't consider my daughter to be' betraying' me if she did that. I can't quite get my head around what you mean by that. My concern would be that I had failed her by allowing it to happen.

I am open and honest with my children about sex and I would hope that they will continue to feel comfortable to talk to me about it. My daughter didn't have sex at 13 because she wouldn't have had the opportunity (not alone with someone unsupervised long enough) but more importantly because she was in no rush to do that. She had other stuff to think about, like being a kid.

Is the boyfriend the same age, or older? It's one thing if it's another silly 13 year old, but another thing entirely if it's a skeezy older guy.

[Kalayla]

In our world today, I don't understand why 13 year olda should be horny when all we could think about at that age was getting good grades in high school.

[Jem Smith]

In our world today, I don't understand why 13 year olda should be horny when all we could think about at that age was getting good grades in high school.

Fortunately, most of them don't.
In the US the average age people have sex for the first time is 17. It's probably similar in most wealthier countries.
"Despite salacious media reports, today's teenagers are not universally having sex at a very young age. In fact, only about 13% of teens have had sex before they turned 15 years old. This is down from about 20% in 1995"
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-new-teen-age/201006/yes-your-teenager-is-having-sex-it-s-not-bad

[eldavis]

To be honest raising kids these days scares me when I hear the various things happening today. Kids today no longer want to wait till they are older enough to try new things.

[Jem Smith]

To be honest raising kids these days scares me when I hear the various things happening today. Kids today no longer want to wait till they are older enough to try new things.

Teenagers having sex is not a new thing. It's been happening for thousands of years.

[arunima]

That would come as a shock for any parent. 13 is too young to be indulged in anything like that. But then it's happening and can't be ignored. It's also a cultural thing and might be common in some countries, while few isolated cases in other countries.
Parents have to keep their communication open with their children and have a healthy bond with them. This has to be done right from the beginning in an age appropriate way. Peer pressure and other influences are more these days. The child should feel free to come and talk to the parents, and they can keep talking to these things in a very objective meaningful way.

[Fidelia]

To be honest raising kids these days scares me when I hear the various things happening today. Kids today no longer want to wait till they are older enough to try new things.

It is really scary because as a parent, you are preoccupied thinking of how to provide and make the child's life better and he or she can only be thinking of sex?

[Netherrealmer]

Teenagers having sex is not a new thing. It's been happening for thousands of years.

My great grandma got married at age 14 because dads wants to get rid of daughters.

[arunima]

Children these days have more exposure and more resources to get the influence, especially with everything available at a fingertip on internet. Childhood is no more protected like it used to be in early days. These exposures and unfiltered contents pull children prematurely out of childhood. Parenting has become more tricky these days. Parents have to make sure that they develop strong bonds with their children and also do everything possible to let them be kids and protected till they actually are kids.

[Jem Smith]

Children these days have more exposure and more resources to get the influence, especially with everything available at a fingertip on internet. Childhood is no more protected like it used to be in early days.

The idea of children being shielded from things like sex is actually a pretty recent one in human history.

Parents have to make sure that they develop strong bonds with their children and also do everything possible to let them be kids and protected till they actually are kids.

I agree that it's important for parents to develop strong bonds with their children.