[Spontaneo]

Men, what is the first thing that you look at when you look at a woman? Be honest!

Is it her nails? Her smile? There has got to be more than cleavage!

Ladies, have you ever wondered about this topic also?

Personally, I would like to know what a man thinks so I can improve myself.

[OldGuy]

To start with, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Physical beauty is a significant part of the initial attraction for almost everyone. The challenge is that what represents beauty is different for everyone.

Some are attracted to big and curvy. Some are attracted to petite and slim. Some are attracted to heavy makeup. Some are attracted to a more natural look with little or no visible makeup. Some are attracted by huge flowing hairdos. Some prefer a more modest hair style. Some will be attracted by wild hair coloring while others won't give a second look. Some are attracted to tattoos. Some won't talk to you if you have tattoos. Some will be attracted to males and some will be attracted to females. You have the same preferences of what attracts you. You can't do much to change any of that that fits who you are. Just make it as nice and clean as you can and go with that. Make sure you don't stink. Quit or at least cut down on smoking, take regular showers and keep the perfumes low key. You will attract those who like your features and will be ignored by those who find other features fit their desires.

Getting past the initial look at physical beauty, the next thing that makes or breaks any connection is the intellect revealed in any conversation. Not talking about differences between English, Spanish, French etc, but rather than an intellectual connection, if you “speak the same language” in conversation, there is an added attraction, or not, in how you communicate. Loud and boisterous will attract some, sweet and quiet will attract others. The intellect that goes along with all of that will make big differences.

Religious differences go a long way. Devout Christians would be better off with other Christians just as devout Muslims, Jews, Buddhists, etc. would fare better with others of similar beliefs. Atheists would fare better if they avoid someone with strong religious affiliations. Some would be perfectly fine with other races, some would prefer someone of the same race. It has to be a similar preference with a good match to avoid a lot of disagreements.

If by chance you find someone who attracts your attention and you seem to see similar reactions from the other side, the rest comes with ongoing meetings or “dates” and just getting to know each other. Some will get to second, third or further dates and some will end in a hurry. Move on as needed.

There are no set rules that will apply to everyone. If you run into someone that you find attractive, make a point of showing your best of what you have and go fishing until you reel in Mr or Ms Right. There is no law that says “he” has to make the first move. You can start the conversation and ask your own questions yourself to get things going.

[Spontaneo]

I once read a book that became a movie that said if he doesn't call first, then he just is not interested in you. I have not gotten a call from a man in years.

I just never think that I am good enough.

[eldavis]

There is no specific answer when it comes to this, what one man looks at first might be different for the next person.

[ragdollie]

I used to wonder about this, but after years of seeing comments made by boys my age on other girl's social media posts, I think I have a fairly good understanding of what the majority of them like. A girl with a pretty face, thin body but not too thin so that she still has boobs. Long hair. Makeup, but only the amount where the average guy can't tell she's wearing it. Feminine clothes, but nothing too unique otherwise it's embarrassing and cringey, and nothing too showy because then guys will think she's a slut. Willing to say yes to anything he says. Must not have any male friends, and should always pick him over her female ones. Absolutely NO body hair on anywhere other than her head and face. Must not be into too many typical female interests such as singers and shopping trends because it's lame and boring. Shouldn't have too many opinions of her own otherwise she's too argumentative. Should be fine with becoming a traditional housewife one day, but also shouldn't expect him to pay for anything. Shouldn't show any signs of aging.

I've decided that I'll have more fun on my own.

[Spontaneo]

I have figured to become self-sufficient money-wise as no man is going to bring home the bacon to myself. In other words, I am never going to be able to become a traditional housewife, which is a dream.

[Giftmichael]

When i see a woman the first I look out for is the facials and the curves finally the height before i even look out for the character . You know their is this saying that says the eyes gets attracted to the outward before the inward this is how its applies to me. I don’t look out for the skin color.