[Netherrealmer]

What is cool and what is not differs with culture. If you are the smartest kid in school you will be the most popular kid if you are in Asia or Africa but in the US, you will be a nerd. What is cool and uncool differs in culture but is there a way to bully proof your kid? I tried to make a research using the lives of people who never got bullied at school and people who got bullied at school and I realize a common denominator between the kids who got bullied and the kids who didn't get bullied.

Give them a Bully proof name.


Bully proofing your child starts at the day they were born. Make sure their names can assimilate with their classmates. Give them a name that won't embarrass them. I had seen so many parents naming their sons Ashley and Kelly. Those names are unisex but they are more associated with girls. Many boys with feminine names easily got bullied at school. Oh I also saw a recent trends of parents using super weird names. Also sometimes normal names can sound like a joke if its combined to their last names.

Imagine all the bullying these people experienced in their lives:









Make your child embrace who they are and they will have good self confidence.

I remember many dark skinned African American actors said they got bullied at school as a child by white kids because they are black and they got bullied by light skinned black kids because their skin is too dark. But it is not the case of the actress Tika Sumpter. I decided to use her as an example because her skin color was never an issue with her growing up. She is a very smart student but she was not counted as a nerd, in fact she became a student council president and a cheerleader. Being Smart never made her uncool at school and being Dark Skinned never made her feel insecure. When she was a kid a light skinned black woman is like a standard of beauty for African Americans during her childhood but she was not affected by pop culture.



She said that her parents raised her to embrace everything about her self and pursue her dreams, If you have self acceptance, you will have high self esteem and people with high self esteem are not targeted by bullies. Due to her high self esteem she was not bullied for her race, academic performance, etc. You can see with the way she was raised, peer pressure and pop culture beauty standards didn't affect her. Her parents made her believe she is beautiful and that resonates to her self esteem.


Do not baby talk your child in public especially if they are on their tweens or teens.



Teenagers needed their personal space, There are times they dont want to be with their parents and it happens because many parents can't accept that their baby is not a baby anymore.I know there are moms out there who still kiss their son in front of many people in the public. Mama's boys are one of the biggest bully targets. There is a place and time for everything and you cannot baby your kid in public especially if they are being image conscious.

Give them the freedom to buy their own clothes and have fashion statements but still restrict them if they get over the top.

You can give them some restrictions on what they cannot wear but give them the freedom to choose clothes they are comfortable with. Most teens wanted to assimilate because if they stand out way too much they come an easy target for bullying. You can give them rules on what they cannot wear but give them freedom to choose because most of the time kids are embarrassed on the clothes what their parents choose. I use to have a classmate who got bullied because his mom loves buying clothes with heart polka dot designs.


Make them learn a sport they can be good at

Athletic kids gets targeted last by bullies. So raise your kid to be physically fit so no one will mess with them. There is a reason why Jocks and cheerleaders are the most popular kids in school in America. You never see bullies target them. I remember as a kid there is a chubby boy at school who is not bullies because he is good at basketball. No one bullies someone athletic no matter what their body type is.

Tell your kid to be not afraid to ask for help
Many kids got bullied a lot because they are afraid to ask for help because they thought asking for help is weakness. Nope snitching those bullies and reporting them will make them target someone else instead.

[ceci]

Haha!
I only agree to these two, Make them learn a sport they can be good at & Tell your kid to be not afraid to ask for help.
I ask them to run if not able to fight back.

[cmoneyspinner]

You can't really “bully proof” your kid. But my painful experience as a parent has been, assuming there is no bullying going on because your child is quiet and doesn't mention that it's happening.

Ask your kids if they're getting on OK at school. You might have to drag the truth out of them because they don't want to talk about it. But do it! Then try to advise them on how to handle it and if it's really serious, alert the school officials.

[Netherrealmer]

Confident children are bully proof though as bullies only target vulnerable ones and popular ones easily find friends to protect them.

[brnrd]

I think the best solution for this is to teach every kid not to bully another kid. Bullying is not good, plain and simple. If I hear that my child is bullying someone, I'll get mad and teach him a lesson. No kid deserve to be bullied. Luckily when I was a kid, I was not bullied, but I've seen many of my classmate got bullied. Too bad I was afraid to stand up for them.

[Netherrealmer]

rules on what they cannot wear but give them freedom to choose because most of the time kids are embarrassed on the cloth

You cannot teach a child that is not yours though and that that is not yours is the bully,

[Angie10]

I absolutely HATE bullying in all its forms. Like you say, bullies always pick on other kids they deem weak, easy pickings, so to speak. But I'm not sure you can truly 'bully-proof' your child. Worse still, kids don't often want to tell anyone in case it makes things worse. Teachers are also not always aware of what's going on. I'm just glad I don't have kids because if I did and someone bullied them, I just wouldn't be responsible for the wrath I'd unleash on those bullies.

[Netherrealmer]

I absolutely HATE bullying in all its forms. Like you say, bullies always pick on other kids they deem weak, easy pickings, so to speak. But I'm not sure you can truly 'bully-proof' your child. Worse still, kids don't often want to tell anyone in case it makes things worse. Teachers are also not always aware of what's going on. I'm just glad I don't have kids because if I did and someone bullied them, I just wouldn't be responsible for the wrath I'd unleash on those bullies.

Homeschooling is still the best way to Bullyproof but majority of parents dont have the time for it.

[Happyland]

Good information that can make a kid's early years as bully-free as possible. But then again kids will be kids and therefor they will find any reason to pick on someone else; or should I say any excuse to pick on someone else. It is an excuse because they need something to cover their own insecurities by trying to shame an innocent child. Many adults are the same way. They can be just as cruel and we see it, hear it and read it everyday. People will be people.

-- 01 Apr 2020, 13:07 --

Good information that can make a kid's early years as bully-free as possible. But then again kids will be kids and therefor they will find any reason to pick on someone else; or should I say any excuse to pick on someone else. It is an excuse because they need something to cover their own insecurities by trying to shame another innocent child. Many adults are the same way. They can be just as cruel and we see it, hear it and read it everyday. People will be people.

[TeacherAngel]

This is rather timely since it seems like at some point in our life, each of us has experienced bullying in one form or another. It seems like what's important is building and strengthening the foundation of the child that he or she may do the right thing when he or she falls victim of bullying. Also, I don't think people should be posting pictures of their identification cards especially with all the details visible.

[Netherrealmer]

Usually kids with low self esteem are easy targets for bullies. Most bullies are actually afraid to target someone who is confident.

[suny]

In our country things are bit different and these things begin as soon the children understand the difference in between girls and boys. The boys are raised in such a way that they consider themselves as superior to girls and having a right to harass the girls as and when they feel like. Things are changing now but there is lot to be done.

[HENRY@147]

You can only try to make your child brave and confident which makes him a bully proof.
A child shouldn't be timid at for no reason.

[cmoneyspinner]

My mother liked unusual names. My aunt suggested my first name and my sister suggested my middle name. When I started working online I used to brag and say I was the “only one” on the Internet. But my late brother gave his daughter my name as her middle name. She uses it for her online work instead of using her first name. She sort of took away my bragging rights. But I'm cool with it.

I am not so sure when my mother named me that she was thinking about giving me a “bully proof” name. Whatever your name is, you should be proud of it. It is your unique identifier and no bully should make you feel otherwise.

[GuestHu]

I think the best solution for this is to teach every kid not to bully another kid. Bullying is not good, plain and simple.

I think that is hard to do because sometimes bullies project their anger on someone. Probably, they are being bullied too and he or she is trying to project his/her negative feelings on someone by hurting them too.

Whatever your name is, you should be proud of it. It is your unique identifier and no bully should make you feel otherwise.

It depends on the mindset of the bullied. The bullied can try not to take his or her bully's jokes or offensive statements personally. I think parents should teach their kids to combat bullies or not take them personally but if they are physically being hurt, perhaps enroll them in fighting sports so they might know to defend themselves.

[chikitta]

I agree with your sentiments, i think a good example of what your bringing out can actually be resonated with the song Coward of the county by Kenny Rogers

[cmoneyspinner]

I think parents should teach their kids to combat bullies or not take them personally but if they are physically being hurt ...

If your child is being physically hurt, you need to call the police.

[mubinadaddy]

Bullying another kids is really a bad ideas, let them go and join boxers now

[Ub40]

This is a very detailed write-up. Thanks for sharing.

[GuestHu]

If your child is being physically hurt, you need to call the police.

The police won't jail those minors. They just reprimand them and probably these bullies will hurt the victim more.