[Masterminor]

My mother is kicking out her boyfriend and his daughters (16 and 18) and tomorrow she is going to file something to skip the whole 30 day eviction notice thing on the grounds that she fears for her life because he's aggressive. The only thing is he's not that aggressive. the most he's ever done to her was push her off of him. But in general he did kick some butt in a bar fight. Yesterday they had another yelling match and mom called the police. She apparently went out to a bar to hang out with guys she'd been messaging on a dating website, and not for the first time. my point is tomorrow she's gonna file something that may not give the boyfriend and his daughter enough time to move out. I was told not to say anything. But I think I should. Do I listen to my mother or not?

[lludawg]

Your going to have to go with your own gut with this one mate. Sounds like you are siding more with your mother's boyfriend. If so, I would definitely say something.

[Masterminor]

It's just that my mom is not being entirely truthful, yes he did do some things, but it's not what she's trying to make it seem. He has freaking kids! Plus I don't know if it will put him in the system or not.

[CyberFreak]

Unfortunately it is a tough situation and really whatever you do, you will be siding with one person over the other. To be honest, what I would do is speak to your mum. Try and talk her down and defuse the situation or delay it. If your mum sees that it is affecting you to the point you are worried and a bit upset then she probably will change her future actions. At the end of the day she is your mum and you are her son and she would not want you to be or feel upset about what is happening. The last thing she would probably want is you to feel like this. What she is doing is wrong but really there isn't much I think you can do without becoming too involved yourself which I don't think would help in any way.

I hope things do sort themselves out in a positive way .

[Masterminor]

Um... Cyber... I'm a female.

I also did the best thing I thought I could do. I told him, but in secret. He'll work it out by going around her and it will never get back to my mom about it. I can at least have the relief of knowing that no matter what I gave him precious time to figure out the best thing he can do for his kids. Also my mom does not care how I feel about anything. if anything she will tell me to toughen up or move in with my homeless father.

[CyberFreak]

Oops sorry

I am sure whatever she says, deep down she does really care about you and how you feel.

[Masterminor]

Lol it's ok. Been getting mistaken for a guy since before I was born.

Pssh. I have to laugh at that one. She really treats me like crap, as well as my brother. While my sister who acts like her is a queen.

[WorkAtHomeGal]

I was going to say because of the type of situation I wouldn't care, I would go behind my mother and tell the guy... Reading down the thread I see that you did so that is good. This reminds me of my father a bit, he treated me and my sister very poorly growing up. As adults we have better relationships though so that is one plus but sometimes he still can do things from then and yeah it is not good.

[Verinha87]

I'm sorry for the situation and I guess I you should tell your mother , but your heart will tell you what to do.Good Luck