[friendociate]

I’m not “against” marriage--tho I’m past ‘the prime age to get married,’ I still hope (like a fairy-tale princess whisked away by Prince Charming ... tho I am a 'hetero' male, so I guess I hope to be 'invited to stay with Princess Dependable') to be married someday--but … I have several friends on Facebook (etc.) who post pictures of themselves with their spouses ‘showing off’ how wonderful their lives are together.

And--like any other child of God--I get a little jealous.

I don’t even know why people get married (and don’t say “love,“ because that’s just ‘limerence’ sustained by the continued gift-giving stimulus)---I guess there’s something reassuring about knowing ‘there’s someone who does everything to make your life better (as long as you do everything to make their life better in return).’

But why can’t ‘a beautiful woman a few years younger than me’ just “decide I’m worth her live-in partnership”? Why does there seem to be a big ‘process’ to getting married (call it “wooing,” call it “dating” … you might even call it “auditions” or “try-outs”)---a process that I don’t feel ‘eligible to participate in’ (because I don’t have a car, a sufficient income, nor the responsibility to take care of either of those)?

I'm also thinking it might just be a distraction to occupy your mind (make it think it's still useful & needed etc.) as your body wastes-away.

A friend (a fellow TBI-survivor) tells me that--if I stay single into my 40s, 50s & 60s, I might regret 'not doing all the necessary things to court- & woo a wife.' I don't think I shall fall into such regret, but I'll be sorely tempted if I keep seeing 'all these Facebook posts that feature people's wedded bliss' if I don't remind myself that they're only showing "the tip of the iceberg"---most of which is a miserable drudgery (from which they 'distract themselves' with-memories of their good times, -their marriage-building romance, -their children, -their grandchildren, etc.)

[KyushuKris]

the thing is, all married guys complain about their wives, but most of them are secretly happy to be married. So it does no good to listen to bar talk. Best way to know about marriage is to be married

[verity]

Most women these days Only married men beacuse of poverty and they want a greener pasture , marrying old rich or middle class men from western countries is what woman living in thirld world country finding nowadays.

[ptrikha21]

the thing is, all married guys complain about their wives, but most of them are secretly happy to be married. So it does no good to listen to bar talk. Best way to know about marriage is to be married

And often the females' complaints about their husbands are more, and often the women either think that their husband is too gullible, honest, idiot or not concerned about the family(even if that husband spends much more time with them than at office or elsewhere).
I think being married gives a kind of psychological security, and other things are just a temporary happiness source.

--- 09 Feb 2019, 23:15 ---

Most women these days Only married men beacuse of poverty and they want a greener pasture , marrying old rich or middle class men from western countries is what woman living in thirld world country finding nowadays.

Well, many men too are after good earners, and in some cases, even try marrying in the hope of getting another country's visa!

[MysticMoons]

I think they fall in love. I am still young enough to get married. But I chase money more than love. So with that said. I find dating a waste of time, since it takes me away from the money making.

[darkthorn]

Because we live in a sick society who created rules to manipulate the masses and weddings are done like contracts, and many people marry because their friends married, they have children because that is what all the people do, that's the programming that runs in our society where love lost it's power somehow.

[KyushuKris]

lol, i totally bumped this thread from the grave

[iamdahmmy]

I guess some people get married because they are in love while some get married because they feel the clock is ticking and they are not getting any younger.Some get married because of money..In a nutshell,people get married because of onslaught of reasons..

[A K Rao]

Man being a social animal wants a social companionship throughout the life time! After finding a suitable companion of opposite sex for the purpose of propagating his race, he gets himself married to her, hoping to live with her throughout his life!

[kanchan18]

Because men are more inclined towards that.

[fistsworn]

I mean these answers all:

I don’t have a car, a sufficient income, nor the responsibility to take care of either of those?

Woman, not being sexist because it is a biological thing not only Human Females do this but ALL or almost ALL animals do this.

It is called hypergamy, meaning the male has to be better set than the female, don't buy into the femminist "Woman can do what a man can", NOT because they can't, but because your attraction as a male will be below 0 if she has all better than you (car, job etc. ) , anny males wanna be a stay at home dad because of that thought lmao.

Also not having resources and having the pretence that she must be beautifull is also a long stretch, depending on what you define as beatifull. You have to settle for your same "sexual market value"
That is an ugly term that I don't like to use, but nonetheless IT definetelly is a thing a girls that's a 6/7 WILL shot for a guy that's atleast 1 higher because hypergamy. So you being low on resources you'd have to find someone lower than that so that she could potentially be attracted.

If you want a 10/10 gotta get that dough, decent car, house and Income to sustain ALL of them.

However I'd still not reccomend marriage, if it goes wrong the Man is the one losing hakf his assets 98% of the times, Jeff Bezos experienced this first hand recently