[Spontaneo]

I have been pretty. I have been ugly. I have been pretty. I have been ugly. All done so in many ways. Teasing happens in many ways. I think that we should discuss how each of we members get teased.

Alot of people get teased because of their looks. One day, when younger, when I was driving with a loved one to go shopping, I looked at all of the makeup on the display in the store. My loved one knew that I wanted some makeup, never having worn makeup before. As soon as I had gotten home, I applied the makeup! My mother walked in and said, “You look so pretty”! My mother had never seen myself with makeup! I felt so good! She liked!

Then, on the other side, I once heard a person say, “You’re ugly”. Also, when I was voted on Homecoming Court, a girl said about herself, “I am more popular. I should have made the Court instead of her”.

Then, I have been very smart. Next, completely stupid. Got teased. I had many offices when in high school. I participated in extra-curricular activities. When university planning came along, I obtained no scholarships or grants. I had to work my butt off while carrying a full load at a prestigious private university that my loved ones could not afford. I should not have gone to such university and strictly had gotten a job right out of high school but my high school
had myself in college prep the whole while, so I was trained to go. My heart was set on the private university.

Also, I have worked my butt off. Following, I did what was easy. Got teased. For example, when I began working at a law office, I bought nice clothes for a nice appearance. The legal secretary ahead of myself said that I could just wear everyday clothes. Kids on campus teased.

The teasing can come from loved ones, co-workers, friends, etc.

My weight has been 94 pounds. My weight has 200 pounds. Now I am at 164 pounds. An acquaintance told myself a couple of months ago that my “neck” is too “big”. So, to ease her complaining, I had an ultrasound done and there is nothing wrong! Then, such acquaintance, in the past, has told myself that I need “social skills” and that I am “needy”.

I am always nice to her. She has yet said something nice to myself! What would you do or say?

I told you my experiences in being teased. There are many other occasions, however, I would really like to know about your experiences also.

[OldGuy]

I suspect a lot of kids were teased about something during school that was never resolved. Back before the Internet and social media, it was all in person. There were times violence was part of the teasing.

Back in my early years, I was a bit overweight; well, just plain fat. I don't recall my weight but I do recall the size 48 pants in the 8th grade. I got teased a lot about it. There was a group of maybe a half dozen classmates who worked in unison to terrorize me every chance they got.

I do also recall the very specific incident where it all came to an abrupt end near the end of the 8th grade. There was some class incident where I had a hard time with the teacher. I remember I was in a bad mood when class was over. I headed to my locker to change books and there was one of those guys just a few lockers away who decided to dig in with the teasing. I was already in a bad mood. When he began with his digs, I walked over to him, grabbed the front of his shirt and slammed his back against the locker with my right hand as I was raising my left fist to beat him up.

This was way out of character for me and shocked everyone who was nearby. As I was about to strike, I noticed there was a big crowd watching and decided I might get in trouble if I actually made contact. I backed off and was shocked when the guy actually dropped about a foot to the floor. I did not even realize I was holding him up.

Well, there were enough witnesses, including many of the gang who loved to tease me that word spread pretty fast around school. The bullies all backed off as a result and I was never teased again right through to graduation. That was a great day.

[Spontaneo]

I suspect a lot of kids were teased about something during school that was never resolved. Back before the Internet and social media, it was all in person. There were times violence was part of the teasing.

Back in my early years, I was a bit overweight; well, just plain fat. I don't recall my weight but I do recall the size 48 pants in the 8th grade. I got teased a lot about it. There was a group of maybe a half dozen classmates who worked in unison to terrorize me every chance they got.

I do also recall the very specific incident where it all came to an abrupt end near the end of the 8th grade. There was some class incident where I had a hard time with the teacher. I remember I was in a bad mood when class was over. I headed to my locker to change books and there was one of those guys just a few lockers away who decided to dig in with the teasing. I was already in a bad mood. When he began with his digs, I walked over to him, grabbed the front of his shirt and slammed his back against the locker with my right hand as I was raising my left fist to beat him up.

This was way out of character for me and shocked everyone who was nearby. As I was about to strike, I noticed there was a big crowd watching and decided I might get in trouble if I actually made contact. I backed off and was shocked when the guy actually dropped about a foot to the floor. I did not even realize I was holding him up.

Well, there were enough witnesses, including many of the gang who loved to tease me that word spread pretty fast around school. The bullies all backed off as a result and I was never teased again right through to graduation. That was a great day.

I never attempted to solve the teasing myself. I just do not have the ability.

[kat82]

There was a group of maybe a half dozen classmates who worked in unison to terrorize me every chance they got.

I really wonder why teasers always have groups they belong too? I never teased anyone during class days. But many teased me to an extent that one I almost removed the eye of a teaser (fellow classmate). That ended once the word spread. I hate teasing.

[eldavis]

I was teased a lot back then in school not even for my looks but they just found one thing or the other to tease me. The best thing to do is ignore them, by doing this you are stripping them of any power they thought they had over you.

[kat82]

I was teased a lot back then in school not even for my looks but they just found one thing or the other to tease me. The best thing to do is ignore them, by doing this you are stripping them of any power they thought they had over you.

When they tease you and you silent, they will do more. The best option is to be aggressive as well.

[Fergal]

When they tease you and you silent, they will do more. The best option is to be aggressive as well.

I'm not sure that is always the case. People sometimes tease other people because they want to get a reaction. If they are met with silence, they are not getting the reaction they want and will often stop the teasing.