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Interview with OldGuy

Postby OldGuy » 01 Aug 2019, 13:51

We are pleased to interview OldGuy today.

Our goal is to get to know our friends and active members a little better. You are invited to ask additional questions, but will only receive answers if the questions are not too personal.

(Disclaimer: My entry is only provided as an example. I am not eligible to win this contest. I will say it was easy to go beyond 15 answers. I could have gone on with more but enough is enough.)

Q: What name do you prefer to use?

A: Dave

Q: How old are you?

A: I am as old as my tongue and a lot older than my teeth.

Q: Your birthdate? (Month and Day)

A: August 30

Q: Are you male, female, or other?

A: Male

Q: Married or single? (How long? Anniversary date?)

A: Single, although I had 4 close calls.

Q: Do you have children? (how many? Boys? Girls? Adopted?, etc)

A: None that I know of.

Q: Are you a student or adult beyond school?

A: It has been well beyond a half century since I attended any schools.

Q: Who was your favorite school teacher, and why?

A: Grace Graham, High School Audio Visual Adviser. She was always very interested in helping students learn new things. As an active member of the audio visual group, I learned how to operate every piece of audio visual equipment the school owned by the end of the tenth grade, and went on to teach and even substitute for the group adviser when she took time off. Most of my favorite memories from those days involved activity with this group. My last visit with her was in a nursing home 25 years after school.

Q: Where do you live? [just what country]

A: I currently live in North Carolina USA. I have always lived in the US. Over the years, I have established residences in 6 different states and have lived (at least remained alive) during travel visits to 27 other states, Mexico and Canada.

Q: Do you practice any religion? [and if so, describe]

A: I consider myself a Christian. I believe there is a significant difference between true Christianity and any religion. There are no protestants or catholics in heaven. No such thing as a mormon, jehovah's witness, muslim, buddhist or any other religious moniker. Religion is man's attempt to reach up to a supreme being, no matter what you call it. Christianity comes from God reaching down to man. They are absolute opposites. I follow scriptural teachings, not man's interpretations.

Q: Do you have a sense of humor? [and if so, describe. Tell your favorite joke]

A: I have an odd sense of humor. I smile a lot as I think of funny things and stories from the past. People have even commented that they wonder what I am up to because I am always smiling. Key words that come up in conversations remind me of some joke that relates and I blurt it out. Most people who talk with me end up laughing. I've often been told I am easy or even fun to talk with.

One of my favorite jokes: Mixed Emotions … when your mother in law is driving your brand new car and goes over a cliff ... My car!

Q: Do you have any hobbies? [and if so, describe]

A: My all time favorite hobby is what I call Angel Duty. I love to just happen to be where I am needed so I can give a hand to someone in some emergency. It might only take a few minutes or it might take all day, but it is a pleasure to help and then vanish as quickly as I showed up, leaving them wondering where that came from. No charge or compensation and they usually never even learn my name. The anonymous hand is part of the pleasure. Nothing else leaves me floating in bliss for hours after the event and hundreds of such memories carry me through every day.

Q: What kind of vehicle do you own and use?

A: I drive a 13 year old Toyota/Scion XB. It has been a very reliable vehicle. Other than regular maintenance, the only repairs have been new tires and a recent air/fuel regulator replacement.

Q: Do you use your vehicle just for work or errands, or do you like to travel?

A: Now that I am long past retirement, most of my driving is just for errands, and that is not much. I filled the tank in December, then the end of February, April and am about to get it filled in August.

Q: Do you like to fly, go by train, boat, etc, or do you prefer to drive your own vehicle?

A: If I travel anywhere, I prefer to drive. Although I have traveled by air, bus, train and boat over the years, I had the experience of a near disaster with a plane trip and with that experience, I refuse to travel by air. At least in a car accident, it happens first and you deal with it. With an air disaster, you have the incident and wait in terror until the inevitable end.

Q: Do you socialize in person, strictly online or a mixture?

A: Other than my exchanges here on FC, I prefer face time with all social activity. I am not a member of any social media site and don't even like to use texting. If I am going to spend social time, it has to be in person to have any meaning for me.

Q: Do you consider your online activity more as entertainment or more as work?

A: My online activity is more therapy than entertainment or work. I have this thing called asperger syndrome that drives me to study some obscure topic to depths that would drive anyone else nuts. Studying site statistics fills the inexplicable drive. For me, it is more like a personal video game. The more obscure detail I can document the higher the game level.

Q: Do you rely on your online revenue, or is it just extra play money?

A: I don't rely on online earnings at all. The only way I have found to use my earnings here is to develop awards to other members discovered while playing my stats game.

Q: Do you keep up with current fashions, or prefer to wear your old comfortable garments?

A: I have no interest in fashion. I don't know anything about famous designers or their wares. I buy cheap stuff that covers the need and wear it until it becomes very religious (holy). I still have and wear stuff that I bought in the 70s.

Q: What is your greatest accomplishment in life?

A: I suppose my single biggest feat was starting and running our high school alumni association for more than 20 years. It grew from just my own high school to including our cross town rival, all cross referenced to additional connections we all had from our 3 local junior high/middle schools, 5 local parochial schools and specialized cross referenced directories for more than 40 extra curricular and city wide groups, even a local motorcycle gang from the 60s.

I single handedly maintained the entire program, including updating an average of 3000 addresses each year. I had located more than 95% of the entire history of all schools, including all high school staff and a growing list in a deceased memorial. It was like maintaining a 5 generation genealogy study of the entire community, with all family connections identified for each member listed. (Another result of my asperger syndrome) Although it included a huge website with all directories secured for members only, the advent of Facebook brought an end to the entire program.
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Re: Interview with OldGuy

Postby ptrikha21 » 04 Aug 2019, 17:34

Wow some wonderful insights into your life and personality. Maintaining so many records for so may years was a big accomplishment.
And you are not on any social media? Not on Twitter/Facebook/Linkedin/Instagram etc ?
Doesn't this makes you feel like missing on something?
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Re: Interview with OldGuy

Postby OldGuy » 04 Aug 2019, 18:25

ptrikha21 wrote:And you are not on any social media? Not on Twitter/Facebook/Linkedin/Instagram etc ?
Doesn't this makes you feel like missing on something?


Not at all. In fact, I cannot understand the attraction to any of them.

As I had previously mentioned, Facebook actually was the reason our alumni association came to an end.

I had already studied several of the various commercial online alumni services, such as classmates.com. At the time, there were dozens of such sites. Without exception, an average of 30% or more of all the members listed in any of those groups were not from our schools, and the lists rarely had more than 5% of our alumni listed in any class. Imposters do all they can to infiltrate private groups for their scamming and spamming activities. Our alumni directories had very strict privacy policies. No outsiders could gain access, and because I worked directly with school records, I knew without question when an imposter tried to join any group.

I had everyone identified and connected to every class, school and group that included them, and everyone who ever attended any of our schools had direct access to the directories that included them as a listed member, with an average of 95% of the members located in any directory. The average member could access 7 directories, including their class, the class before and after their own, their class as it was in any of the junior high and parochial groups, and then on to multiple extra curricular and community clubs. I made special accommodations for the international exchange student/alumni with connections for those they knew beyond the usual class connections. By the way, all directories went far beyond name, address and contact info. There were 37 fields of data that were listed for each member. When someone died, I already had their own response to create a lasting memorial.

I had a private "Knock Knock" system where anyone could contact any of our alumni via a forwarded message. If they wanted to complete the contact, they could do so. When a message came in, I only confirmed the message had been forwarded. There were several responses where divorced women were terrified of a viscous ex and other past dangerous relationships who were extremely grateful for this level of privacy.

I only charged $5 per year, but that was the funding needed to keep the program running. When Facebook showed up, several class groups created their own Facebook pages and membership fees fell off until costs far exceeded any revenue. The average Facebook group only included 25% to 35% of whatever class it was for and everyone lost contact with those who did not join their class Facebook group. They lost contact with everyone else in all those other groups, and no one on Facebook was maintaining the deceased memorials. I had been recording the passing of 5 to 7 of our alumni every single month for the duration.

At any rate, when Facebook pushed us out of existence, I was looking at just moving the directories to Facebook so they could continue on their own. However, I actually studied the Facebook Privacy policies, which almost no one ever does and it terrified me. Private groups cannot possibly remain private on Facebook, because anyone can join any group they want and then they are in. Marketing the data collected is a huge invasion of privacy and that part of their policy closed the door forever for me.

Actually reading the privacy policies made me realize I would NEVER join Facebook or any other social media site. I don't regret that decision at all.
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Re: Interview with OldGuy

Postby googleplus » 08 Sep 2019, 19:08

You mentioned you have "asperger syndrome" Do you find it difficult in your day to day life ? :roll:
OldGuy wrote:Q: Your birthdate? (Month and Day)

A: August 30

And I read this late, but I would like to wish you -- Belated Happy Birthday :thumbup:
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Re: Interview with OldGuy

Postby OldGuy » 08 Sep 2019, 21:57

googleplus wrote:You mentioned you have "asperger syndrome" Do you find it difficult in your day to day life ? :roll:


Well, I never knew I was affected until I was past 60. I was actually in a job search and one of the guys I was talking to suggested I talk to someone. He even made the call and appointment while I was there. When I arrived for that appointment, the first thing the guy said was "I understand you are here to be checked out for Aspergers."

I was stunned, but went through the process. Apparently the job interviewer saw something no one had ever noticed before. I had heard of it, but knew nothing about it, much less that I had anything to do with it. Anyhow, I went on a search to find out what it even was and was shocked. It felt like I was reading my own biography! At least I now have an explanation for a lot of odd things I have gone through since childhood. This whole thing lead to my taking early retirement even though I didn't want to.

I try. I was always trying. Just ask my mom. she always said I was trying. Everyone I know always thought I was a little odd (and several told me that), but that was just me. Now I know that a lot of that can be explained by this "condition" or whatever it is called. I just wonder why no other doctor or anyone else ever even noticed it in me. It would have made life a lot easier if I had known I had something to explain my unusual reactions to life as it came along. I guess I learned to live with the challenges without knowing what the challenge even was.


googleplus wrote:And I read this late, but I would like to wish you -- Belated Happy Birthday :thumbup:


Thanks! and a very merry unbirthday to you!
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Re: Interview with OldGuy

Postby suny » 09 Sep 2019, 02:45

OldGuy wrote:When I arrived for that appointment, the first thing the guy said was "I understand you are here to be checked out for Aspergers."

I have had a few chances to chat with you on couple of different topics but never felt that you had Aspergers syndrome or anything like that. By the way did you ever take a second opinion or just took it without confirming? I don't believe a person like you with so long comments would suffer from Aspergers!
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Re: Interview with OldGuy

Postby OldGuy » 09 Sep 2019, 03:16

suny wrote:did you ever take a second opinion


Well, as a matter of fact, I went through multiple tests from several different sources that confirmed the affliction. When I studied other resources to find out what it even was, it described my life so accurately that it left no question I have had it since early childhood. It is classified as a "high functioning level" of the autism spectrum but has its own range of issues to deal with.

My verbose exchanges are actually part of the affliction. My peculiar drive in studying site statistics is part of it. There is a long list that all comes from this condition and I have dealt with nearly all of them many times since childhood. I just never knew why until these relatively recent tests.
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